Okay like every morning - I sit down with my cup of coffee at work and click on my good friends Ella and Charlotte's blog - FinchFound (it is awesome) and bam Ms. Charlotte kicked me in the face with this morning's post - Dear Date Night | Date Night Ideas . I was driving to work this morning thinking about how much I miss Eric. We never get to sit down and talk anymore - we never get to watch something we both enjoy together - we don't cuddle on the couch - we barely have time to ask about one another' day. Oh yes we are PARENTS and with that we sacrificed the little things to have a wonderful family AND don't get me wrong I wouldn't change it for a thing and I am not complaining but I just plain miss him.
We are getting bids to cover our patio so every night he is outside with the company's and I am running around inside getting dinner, baths, playing referee, getting ready for school the next day, etc... (yes the normal nightly duties). We speak for a moment while he jumps in the shower and then by the time he gets out I am fast asleep after the 9:00 p.m. news (oh yes people I have to get to sleep that early because my a** gets up at 4:45 a.m. to get my day started) - so there goes another day and more moments I don't "spend" with him.
I know many of you are reading this and thinking "um get over it, we do this everyday and don't complain". But here is the thing I VOWED to myself that I would never neglect the foundation of our family, which is ERIC and I. I vowed to always make sure that if we keep OUR relationship strong it will have a trickling down affect on our little one's. HE and I made our family and we should never forget that. Our children are our world but Eric and I made this family together - and we need time for ourselves too. Just the TWO of us - to laugh about the kids, our work, our family, etc... just to COMMUNICATE. The kind of communication that isn't a 4 year old screaming "Can I have some water please" - while a 1 year old pulls her hair and then comes running saying "up up up". I cherish these moments but I also cherish my time alone with him.
So here is the deal and after all that ranting....
I had tried to find a sitter for Saturday evening so we could go to Fairmount Park to have dinner and see the horse races. My friends Beth, Melissa, and my sister in law Stacy are ALL going and bringing their husbands/significant others (mind you they have NO children) and I can't find a sitter for the LIFE of me. Plus with Wes sick these past couple of days, I have worn out my welcome with Eric's parents sitting - so I don't want to ask them. This all began as a GNO but then we decided the guys need to get out too - so we changed it to a date night for everyone.
Well here I sit - probably heading to the races solo while my gorgeous, loving, husband stays home with the kiddos (I know this might strike a nerve with some - as I know many husbands won't even do that). I will miss him and be thinking of him the whole time - he needs time out too. Ugh.. Blah... enough ranting for the day. I miss Eric - I really really really do...
YES Eric gets to go - My mom saved the day - she will be sitting for my lovely bunch.. Off to the races with my handsome hunk of love... Oh yes and THANK YOU MOM!