Thursday, December 20, 2012

Not All Rainbows... 2nd Post Thursday and for Friday

Happy Thursday - yes... I am posting AGAIN today, BUT for a good reason. I need to discuss. You all know I am usually rainbows, sunshine, smiles, sugary, etc... today I am confused - yes I know, I look confused MOST of my life.

I don't normally vent or get sucked into all that "he said, she said" stuff - because, honestly, I don't like to exhaust my energy on negativity - GAWD knows I have enough of that elsewhere in my life. I am a firm believer in YOU make the choices in your life and I choose to steer clear of negative energy, people, places, etc...

With all that being said, I don't get people/situations sometimes. I TRY to always put myself in other people's shoes and NOT judge a person because I am NOT them and do not know the whole story. If something makes a person happy - so be it... that is them. For instance, I HATE the wilderness and outdoorsy trail hikes, camping, etc... but would I knock you for doing it? NO NO NO... Have at it - do as you wish/please. I just choose to hang out in a hotel with a pool. No-one is right - no-one is wrong - we are just DIFFERENT. You like to listen to Country music - yay for you... I am just NOT a fan - but does that make me NOT like you or think otherwise of you - NOPE!!!! I will raise my SOLO cup (that is a song right?) to you and say "I have friends in low places" (another song right?) while Biggie blares in the background at my house.

So getting to my point... If you don't like my blog, instagram, keek, twitter, etc... just STOP going to it. Don't click on my blogs URL, my name on the apps, or the link on my FB page. That is YOUR choice to make. This world makes me HAPPY. I love to write non-sense, make new friends, find fun things to do, learn about other people, encourage others, play dress up, swap recipes, post pics of myself and the kids, follow others shenanigans and families, swap stories, laugh hysterically at others funny comments, etc... This is MY hobby and MY outlet - I don't golf, hang out at the bars often, scrapbook, make sweaters/hats, collect precious moments, etc... I find motivation and inspiration in the people I have fallen in love with, right here in the blog world. We might not hang out, face to face, every day - but we CARE about one another, even if you CAN'T understand that. We ALL still have our REAL lives with friends and family - that is of UTMOST importance - but this is a "family" too.

I am also a firm believer in communication and communication with the actual person whom you are questioning. So if you are wondering about me, this world I am in, and what it all means, etc... please ask ME... no-one can explain it better than the person who is LIVING it. Please feel free to direct questions to ME - not around me. I will answer them to the best of my ability, I will listen to your opinion with an open-mind, and I will NOT judge you for not understanding what I do.

I could go on and on - but I am going to stop here. Thank you all for listening to my rant - I need to get it out NOW. For those who may have questions - you have my phone number.... and for others, my email is missmel_joy@yahoo.com - if you want we can exchange verses via phone as well. For all those who DO understand - THANK YOU for being apart of my life - you mean the WORLD to me.

I will NOT be posting tomorrow - I am processing...

Have a Great Weekend...

43 comments:

  1. Oooohhh girl. I feel you on this. This is MY thing. You don't have to like it or participate in it. I hate that negative things happen to positive people, but you are stronger, better, and wiser for dealing with it and moving on. You are one of my favorite blogs to check in on every day and I joined keek just to creep on your videos. There is no one i'd rather dirty dance with or stalk shameless selfies of. Let me know if you need any back up- I CrossFit, remember?

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  2. You know there's a lot of people out there that are haters or trolls...hahahaha! You are my friend and I think you are wonderful! You are real and that's not something you find very often these days.

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  3. I'm sorry there are haters...but haters gonna hate! And I love your reference to collecting Precious Moments...seriously people, they are scary large eyed ceramic dolls! You're a girl after my own heart with Biggie blaring in the background too, glad you could vent and hopefully the cattiness will find itself another blog. Have a great weekend and Merry Christmas!

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  4. I am sorry girl :(. I LOVE your blog and love that you are sharing some of your life with us!

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  5. love ya sister & I hope your family has a very MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!!

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  6. I just found your blog a few weeks ago and love what I see! Don't let people get you down. Drita from Mob Wives (a guilty pleasure) says it best "Haters are like crickets, they chirp all day but when you walk by (in your case, blog about it) they shut the eff up!" Have a good weekend & Merry Christmas. :)

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  7. I love your blog and Instagram! (and Biggie too!) Why do some people always have to find something to complain about? Don't worry about what those people say, you are awesome!

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  8. I enjoy your blog, your Instagram, and all. People can be real a-holes sometimes and this is YOUR blog where you express YOUR thoughts. Keep writing what you want, apologize to no one, and continue to kick a$$ :)

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  9. I can't understand why people say negative things on others blogs. For real if you don't like it don't read it. Period. Usually it's people who like Drama and are negative. Don't let them get you down you're a great person and I love following you! You have so many awesome qualities I'm jealous of! Have a great weekend!

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  10. I love you and your blog? Are you kidding? I have met you in person and you are just as nice if not nicer. I am with you. If people don't like what you are saying, then don't read. Hello?!?!

    Keep what you are doing, because there are more people who love you than don't!

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  11. I am SO SO sorry you are having to deal with this crap girl. My blog is fairly new so I am lucky enough to not have any hater YET. I know I will take whatever that future hater or haterS say personally but we have to remember not to. I love your bright, cheery self so much! Don't change for those people who disagree. Keep on keepin on girlfriend!

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  12. Well said lady! I always wonder why people can't just mind their own business and be happy for others. WHY do things bother others so much?! God make each and every one of us different and that is something that should be celebrated! Have a very Merry Christmas and keep on doing what you do best!

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  13. I will raise my SOLO cup (that is a song right?) to you and say "I have friends in low places (another song right?) while Biggie blares in the background at my house. I FREAKIN LOVE YOU!! lol also collect precious moments!!!! Ha youre the best! I dont know what this is about but I love your blog and keeks and instagram and my social media wouldnt be the same without you so just keep doing what you do!

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  14. Why do people hate on my favourite bloggers?!?! I want to poke them in the eye with a stick... the haters, not my favourite bloggers.

    And you are very right, if people don't like what you have to say, don't click on the link!!!

    Love your blog!

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  15. Who the hell is this person?? I will kick some ass because you are AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!! We could jam to Biggie while we go shopping for shoes.......

    Hater's gonna hate. ahhahahaha.

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  16. I can't imagine anyone taking exception to your blog. It's one of the funnest places on the interwebs!

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  17. I have not seen a damn thing wrong with anything you've ever posted. It irks me like you wouldn't believe when there are people who hate, and most of the time I feel like its out if jealousy though. You are a doll and an inspiration to soooo many, myself included. So screw them!

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  18. That's when you know your blog is getting big;-) I bet you Mama L has some stories for you!

    ...but due to your lack of liking country music...we're no longer friends, just kidding!

    Try not to take it personally as they don't probably know you know you and more than likely are jealous of your gorgeous self!

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  19. I like country music and 4 wheeler riding while on a camping trip- But I can also get down with Biggie too;)I am from Tennessee what can I say? I just found you yesterday and I think you are a big slice of amazing! Hope your family has a wonderful Christmas!

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  20. You go girl! Keep doing what you do and keep your head-up! We all love you here in Blog world!

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  21. They see me rollin'. They hatin'. Patrolling they tryin' catch me ridin' dirty.
    Ugh, petty people with no lives that have to post negative comments make me wanna wretch! They remind me of those old people that have nothing better to do then drive up and down neighborhoods and alleys giving people citations for a car that hasn't been driven in a while or grass that needs to be mowed.
    You just want to tell them "GET A FREAKIN' LIFE! Is your life so absurdly boring that you sit around bashing people you don't even really know?"
    I think you are nothing short of lovely, entertaining, and sweet.

    And to the person(s) that left the negative comment, if you are reading this
    I hope life gets better for you. Obviously your misery was wanting company. Write your local senator. They are the ones that actually like to listen to complaints.

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  22. I like to post AND read nonsense! Like you, I don't understand why you wouldn't just stop reading and looking at stuff you didn't enjoy??? It is your choice peeps!

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  23. Hell to the NO! I love you and all your randomness and music choices! xoxo

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  24. I love your style... I saw this quote and thought of you "when people try to rain on your parade, poke them in the eye with your umbrella"

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  25. AMEN.

    I am sorry you're even experiencing this. I truly will never ever understand how someone can hate on someone's blog/diary etc. Um, YOU CLICKED ON IT. Not a damn person forces you there.

    Gina is also right - THAT is when you know your blog is getting big. Seriously.

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  26. You make me smile with all your social media outlets! (Cos, yep, i follow you on all of 'em!) Keep doing YOU, sista! And keep your head up!!

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  27. I love reading your posts. I think you are awesome and hawt! Please don't ever stop.

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  28. You rock! Ignore the haters and keep being you!!

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  29. Are you freaking kidding me right now?! How can anyone have anything bad/hate related toward your blog?! I don't understand the concept behind people following a blog if they don't like what they're reading. Those people are sad, and have nothing better to do with their time! I love your blog, your photos, and you! Shake it off girl!

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  30. I'm sorry friend!! I don't understand the negativity either. What's the point? It's your blog (& I love it!) and you can write what you please. Hope you have a great weekend! Don't let the hater's bring you down. <3

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  31. I'm sorry. I don't know what prompted this, but you don't deserve anything but the best. You're awesome and I hope you don't let whatever happened effect you negatively.

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  32. Obviously all the most awesome people loves you! I get your need to vent and process. It sucks that one lame ass can get us so upset/annoyed/angry. I love ya chick, and will kick some troll tale if need be. *cracks knuckles*

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  33. How rude! Seriously some people have nothing better to do than tell other people how it "should" be. You are totally rad. Keep your chin up friend, I am here for you!

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  34. Guurrrrrl! Don't even worry bout haters, brush em' off. You are the bomb.com and you have so many people that love your blog (including me). Keep doin' what your doin'. Be happy, life is too short to worry about the insecure, insignificant people that have to try to make you as miserable as they are. You're awesome, end of story =) ... Happy Holidays!!!!!!!!

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  35. I love your blog and your keeks and other that other shit. I love seeing your beautiful face and your adorable children. Don't worry about jealous people.

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  36. Girl, haters gonna hate! I am fairly new to reading blogs but now I can't wait to see what random, fun, ENJOYABLE, things you say every day. And really, some of you blog ladies I check in on everyday are some of the realest, nicest, most giving girls I know! You Rock!!!

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  37. Haters gonna hate. I think you are f'ing FABULOUS!! For reasons other than the fact that you can appreciate the humor in humping reindeer! You have a beautiful family, a beautiful personality, and a beautiful face to top it all off! Brush off those haters. They're just jealous. Love ya, girl!

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  38. Amen sista! And FYI Biggie still rles lol. I'll be blasting rap even when I'm old and gray lol.

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  39. I'm a little slow and just now reading this. I could not agree more. I actually have a post in the "draft" section that addresses a similar subject. Now I think I will definitely have to post it! Keep doin' you homegirl, no one else matters! Well except me of course, because I'm gonna be your new best friend, you just don't know it yet :)

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  40. Like Kadi, I'm also a little slow on the uptake and behind on my blog reading. I am no stranger to having people in my life not support my blog, especially considering the content I choose to write about. I'm glad you were brave enough to post this... Not only did all of Team Melanie come out of the woodwork to support you, but you also were able to publicly address the person who prompted this post. The ball is in their court now, which I hope gets resolved better than mine have (usually with f-bombs and ugly names... On my part and theirs...) My advice: keep doing you... Do what makes you happy. Also it's okay to feel a little flattered that they hate themselves enough to obsess over what you're up to.

    The best advice I ever took was, "have the courage to speak even if your voice shakes."

    Love you, Mel!

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  41. aww I'm a new follower, found you on KEEK :) from others and i LOVE your blog. so everyone else can suck it.

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  42. Amen. I love you and your blog! You are funny and definitely inspiring with your 4am workouts. I will keep coming back for more lol. Shake the haters off haha. And sorry I'm late to the party. Playing catch up on my favorite blogs today :) keep doing what you do!

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  43. Amen to biggie in the background! I feel like I'm one of the only people in blog land who still listens to hip hop.

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